Thursday, 8 November 2012

The grass is never greener...........

It does feel that I am missing out on things sometimes. I have Facebook to blame for that! Every time I go on it, there is always someone boasting about how much fun they are having..................and it's always when you are bored out of your mind when you read it! It's normally something like 'off to Vegas in the morning' or 'clubbing in London tonight with my bestie, it's gonna get messy!'...............AND its normally on a school night!! When I am bored during the week I generally have 3 options: A) go out B) Watch TV or a DVD or C) log onto t'internet. Option A comes at cost and no-one tends to go out during the week anyway, option B can sometimes fill the void if you are in the mood for a film..............or if there is a good game on TV!  But option C is generally what we tend to opt for......................particularly now we have t'internet via my new pal Samsung! As I am writing this on the laptop, Aicha is, at this very moment, streaming 'The Twilight Saga' on the 55"!

With the invention of social media, everyone can know what everyone else is doing at any time............where they are, who they are with and where they are going. Suddenly everybody else's life seems more exciting than yours! Can anyone remember what life was like before Facebook came along?? Did life feel more exciting??

Facebook also gives you an insight into what everybody else is doing, in terms of career aspirations and successes, as well as general well being. It is in our nature to compare ourselves to other people so I can understand if some people feel jealous when they read some of things on there.....................but on the flip-side you feel lucky you are not one of those poor bastards who wash all their dirty laundry in public. We all have our problems but why would you want the world to know about them??? It's the 'Jeremy Kyle' effect I guess!

Don't misunderstand me, I have no grumble against Facebook, I'm just trying to illustrate how its used and how people react to things differently. I actually LOVE Facebook. I think its the best thing since slice bread! I think everyone should be able to express whatever they want and there is nothing that I don't like about it. I see Facebook as the perfect friend. It accepts what you like, what you don't like and who your other friends are....................and they want to spread all the good news!!.................even, if sometimes, it's something you do not want to hear!!

One thing I have learnt is to appreciate what you have and accept the things you cannot change. I certainly appreciate what I have. I have a good life, a fantastic wife, great friends and a wonderful family..................I'm just not 21 anymore!.............That I cannot change!

During the last six months I spent apart from Aicha in the UK, I said to myself that, as I was leaving everything behind and moving permanently, I would enjoy every single minute of it................and don't get me wrong I did have a lot of fun................but it was during that time that I really realised I wasn't as young as I used to be! I missed my wife massively and the thought of leaving my friends and family was a massive weight on my mind so I tried to bottle it up by going out. It worked to some extent but by the end I couldn't wait to leave because, as I was on my own, I found myself in that dangerous mindset of 'living for the weekend'................something I hadn't felt since I was about 23!!........................plus the hangovers were murder!! Most guys want to re-live their teenage years, and I did to some extent but when I think about it, given the choice, I much prefer the quiet life I have here. The grass is never greener. Life is good at the moment!

That doesn't mean that I am not immune to occasional relapse.............I am a bloke after all!!

Plus.............a lot of the stuff written on Facebook could be exagerated anyway................you can write whatever you want!!

Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Bits And Pieces........

The last week has been a mixture of working the day job and doing odd jobs around the apartment..............with the occasional night out in between! Last Friday we went to see the new James Bond film 'Skyfall' and I have to say I think it the best one yet! I was totally hooked from Start to finish. Everything about it was buzzing! The story, the direction, the cinematography, the chases, the villain, the shoot outs, the ending..............but especially Bond himself. Like most I wasn't sure about Daniel Craig when he first signed up as Bond but he has definitely proved all the doubters wrong. For me he is up there with the best of them, as is Javier Bardem as one of the best villains. He is only in half of the film but he steals every scene he is in! It is an awesome movie and if you're reading this and haven't seen it..................stop reading and go see it!

Over the weekend we continued on the small jobs which needed doing around the apartment. We bought some curtain rails which needed putting some up as well as some pictures for the bedroom. We managed to get all the pictures up but we have hit a bit of stumbling block in that we do not have anything to put on the main wall opposite the bed. It would not look right to hang small pictures on it as its quite a large space so the only alternative would be to either find a massive picture to put there (which is never easy to find something you like) or do what we did in the lounge and apply a design of some kind which you can stick on yourself. We were thinking of maybe having a series of cool inspirational quotes......................which might sound a bit cheesy but it will be something different, which is what I like! Plus it will be something positive to wake up to in the morning!!

On the Sunday I hooked up with my pals Micke and Alesandro at The Dubliner to watch the Merseyside derby between Liverpool and Everton. It was the first time this season that I have been out to watch a game.....................and other than the result the game the day didn't disappoint! My fellow Liverpool supporters were out in force and the atmosphere was great. The game finished 2-2 but it was a belter! Unfortunately we were robbed of the win after the linesman disallowed a perfectly good goal in the last minute...................suffice to say the Swedes were not happy! It was a good day out none the less and it was great to meet up my pals again as it had been while.

I am still studying my Swedish every Tuesday and I'm doing my best to put it to good use by talking as much as I can at home with Aicha (although I'm sure she would say that I should try harder!). Ideally I would like to go to college more than one time a week but they only have the one class! I have an exam in a few weeks then the course is over so I need to look into what to do once it ends as I want to continue studying. It is difficult to learn Swedish if you are English................not because the language is difficult it's more that everyone speaks English and everyone wants to speak English to you!! I am picking it up slowly and I can just about hold a conversation with Aicha, but I still have a long way to go!!

The rest of the week was a bit of a blur. My job is going really well although there is so much to do it feels like there is not enough hours in the day! It's always good to be busy though! The project I am working on is due to finish at the end of the year but we have so much to left to complete it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel! 2013 is only 8 weeks away now so that deadline is getting ever closer!!

That also means that its less than a month until my mum and sister come to visit.................happy days!!!