Thursday, 8 November 2012

The grass is never greener...........

It does feel that I am missing out on things sometimes. I have Facebook to blame for that! Every time I go on it, there is always someone boasting about how much fun they are having..................and it's always when you are bored out of your mind when you read it! It's normally something like 'off to Vegas in the morning' or 'clubbing in London tonight with my bestie, it's gonna get messy!'...............AND its normally on a school night!! When I am bored during the week I generally have 3 options: A) go out B) Watch TV or a DVD or C) log onto t'internet. Option A comes at cost and no-one tends to go out during the week anyway, option B can sometimes fill the void if you are in the mood for a film..............or if there is a good game on TV!  But option C is generally what we tend to opt for......................particularly now we have t'internet via my new pal Samsung! As I am writing this on the laptop, Aicha is, at this very moment, streaming 'The Twilight Saga' on the 55"!

With the invention of social media, everyone can know what everyone else is doing at any time............where they are, who they are with and where they are going. Suddenly everybody else's life seems more exciting than yours! Can anyone remember what life was like before Facebook came along?? Did life feel more exciting??

Facebook also gives you an insight into what everybody else is doing, in terms of career aspirations and successes, as well as general well being. It is in our nature to compare ourselves to other people so I can understand if some people feel jealous when they read some of things on there.....................but on the flip-side you feel lucky you are not one of those poor bastards who wash all their dirty laundry in public. We all have our problems but why would you want the world to know about them??? It's the 'Jeremy Kyle' effect I guess!

Don't misunderstand me, I have no grumble against Facebook, I'm just trying to illustrate how its used and how people react to things differently. I actually LOVE Facebook. I think its the best thing since slice bread! I think everyone should be able to express whatever they want and there is nothing that I don't like about it. I see Facebook as the perfect friend. It accepts what you like, what you don't like and who your other friends are....................and they want to spread all the good news!!.................even, if sometimes, it's something you do not want to hear!!

One thing I have learnt is to appreciate what you have and accept the things you cannot change. I certainly appreciate what I have. I have a good life, a fantastic wife, great friends and a wonderful family..................I'm just not 21 anymore!.............That I cannot change!

During the last six months I spent apart from Aicha in the UK, I said to myself that, as I was leaving everything behind and moving permanently, I would enjoy every single minute of it................and don't get me wrong I did have a lot of fun................but it was during that time that I really realised I wasn't as young as I used to be! I missed my wife massively and the thought of leaving my friends and family was a massive weight on my mind so I tried to bottle it up by going out. It worked to some extent but by the end I couldn't wait to leave because, as I was on my own, I found myself in that dangerous mindset of 'living for the weekend'................something I hadn't felt since I was about 23!!........................plus the hangovers were murder!! Most guys want to re-live their teenage years, and I did to some extent but when I think about it, given the choice, I much prefer the quiet life I have here. The grass is never greener. Life is good at the moment!

That doesn't mean that I am not immune to occasional relapse.............I am a bloke after all!!

Plus.............a lot of the stuff written on Facebook could be exagerated anyway................you can write whatever you want!!

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